Oddities
When I first moved to Saffron Walden, I spent a lot of time with one of the guys from work. We live nearish and both didn’t really know people in the area and got along. Things were going well until he told me he wanted to be more than friends. I said no and around that time he started getting more and more negative. Seeming to find fault with many aspects of my personality. I’d like to think the timing was just coincidental, but perhaps not.
I’ve had enough negativity in my life to last theee lifetimes, so my response to this sort of thing is to spend less time with said person. And I was getting to know more people in the area so I wouldn’t have been spending as much time with him anyway, but I reduced it even more. And more as the negativity continued. Until one day when I bit back. Of course, there are people out there that can never admit to anything and it is of course, all in your head. But they’ll continue with it even after you call them on it.
I last called him on his shit on Sat when he pissed me off with some text messages. He did his usual acknowledge he’d been in the wrong (well, that was unusual actually, because he’d never gotten to that bit before), close the issue, then ten minutes later send me a text saying actually it was all in my head. My response was to tell him this was getting old and he then sent a text message that we would need to continue this conversation in person as text messages were just escallating it. Well, if he hadn’t wanted to escalate it, he shouldn’t have started in again once it was all settled.
So I did what any sane gal would do: ignore the idiot.
Now here’s where the title of my blog post comes in. All of a sudden this week, I’ve been getting emails from him in the afternoon telling me what he’s doing that night. Today I got told all his plans for tonight and this weekend. Am I a diary? Maybe he thinks if he forgets what he has to do he can call me up and I’ll remind him. I can’t think of any reason why I’d be getting this sort of play by play. This is definitely new. And very odd.
What do you think? And anything odd happened in your week?
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January 11th, 2013 at 7:12 pm
That is just strange! I can’t think of any reason beyond you’re awesome and he desperately wants to be near you any way possible
January 11th, 2013 at 9:55 pm
I am beyond rubbish at decoding other people’s behaviour, especially men. Sounds like a bloody nutter best avoided, however :-/
January 12th, 2013 at 1:08 am
Yup, that’s weird! I had a falling out with my soon-to-be-ex flatmate earlier in the week…
January 12th, 2013 at 1:11 am
I think he has ‘issues’, major ones….
January 12th, 2013 at 2:07 am
sigh. nothing to top that, no.
January 12th, 2013 at 12:08 pm
Definitely odd! I think he’s attempting to show off in a ‘See? I have a life without you.’ five year old boy type way…
Or he wants you to go to wherever with him but won’t ask…
My week has been completely devoid of oddities. Or maybe they’ve been there but I haven’t noticed them!
January 12th, 2013 at 6:21 pm
Not to go all paranoid, but that’s controlling behavior and you need to ignore him. Read the Gift of Fear. You said you weren’t interested, he’s escalating. Any contact you have with him will only escalate it more because he sees that his behavior is working by getting you to communicate with him. A few years ago when I was dating on-line I started writing with a guy who lived in a nearby town. He started talking about how he liked guns and meat. And I wrote him and said that I hated guns and was a vegetarian and I didn’t think this was going to work out. He wrote me every day for a month with random statements and questions trying to get me to write back. I didn’t and eventually he went away. But, it was creepy and completely unnecessary. And, like you, it was a lot of random statements about what football game he was going to that night and what his plans were. Since I said I wasn’t interested, there was no reason to keep communicating. In my humble opinion, normal behavior is to acknowledge that you are not interested and not blame you for it and then to respect the person by not peppering them with information. I just don’t like how he is acting and I would stay far away from him.
January 12th, 2013 at 7:09 pm
scary! I would block his number and forget about him. That isn’t the way “normal” people act!
January 13th, 2013 at 12:29 am
I am with Kathleen. Anything other than ignoring gives him encouragement and an opening to manipulate and/or say you encouraged him. I have the same at the moment but just obsessive texting!
January 13th, 2013 at 10:37 pm
ignore him completely – he sounds a little odd to me – and a little obsessive